With Indi starting school (kindy) this year, one of my aims was to become a little more organised. Knowing that for the past four years, mornings have been ‘our time’, I figured being out the door by 7:45am three days a week was going to be a challenge. For my own sanity I want to have a little more structure to our household so that weekends aren’t taken up with endless chores. I want to simplify daily needs, to not stand in front of the fridge in the evenings and wonder what on earth we should cook for dinner (or why everyone needs to be fed daily!). And I really don’t want to be that mother who is so very tired of the sound of her own voice constantly nagging her child to get ready, hurry up, get a move on….
So Indi starting school has been my major motivator. I want her to learn self regulation, responsibility, time management and I figure that this year is the time to walk her through these life lessons. She attends school (kindy) 5 days a fortnight, so this seems to be the perfect opportunity for us to trial and measure some new family organisation strategies.
Stage One: School Organisation
I took to Pinterest to get some ideas on how to set up an area for her school bag. The aim here is to make sure that everything has a place and everything is in its place; no running around in the morning trying to find a missing shoe or where her school hat has disappeared to. We have a list on the fridge door to remind us what items need to be taken to school on any given day (wear sports uniform on Mondays, take library bag to school and home on the last kindy day of the week, homework goes to school on the first kindy day of the week and back home on the last kindy day of the week etc). When she comes home in the afternoon she takes her lunch and bottle out of her bag and puts them on the kitchen table. She then hangs her bag on her bag hook, gets out of her uniform (shorts usually get folded and worn again the following day and shirt goes in her washing basket), and puts her school shoes in the container underneath. If it is a homework day, her homework bag gets hung up on her bag hook also. Sun screen is kept in the container with the shoes for easy use, as are kindy sheets (sheets go to school on a Monday and return home for washing on a Wednesday). Our set up needed to be small as there is no space in her bedroom for extra furniture or an elaborate setup. Her school uniform hangs neatly in the centre of her wardrobe. I have found washing and hanging on a hanger has eliminated the need to iron (I’m sure senior years will be different). Her small bag which is used the other two days of the week (for family day care) sits next to her shoe box. We are three weeks into school and this system has been working a treat.
Stage Two: Simple Meal Planning
Both hubby and I work from home and as lovely as this sounds, it can sometimes mean work happens constantly; there is no real finish time. Hubby has largely been responsible for dinner (I’m a lucky woman!) but to share this load a little more we are doing a very basic meal plan. We go to the markets (fresh fruit, vege and meat) and supermarket each Sunday. When we unpack our food I simply write up the basic meal for each night on the fridge chalk boards. This small act has meant that we know what we are doing each evening without having to think about it. Along with this I also write where Indi is each day, what time she needs to be picked up and by whom (this helps hubby know when he is on school pick up).
Indi’s lunch is the second part of simple meal planning. I find that if I make her lunch the night before, our morning flows 100 times better. Indi has always been a little difficult to feed. She eats well but is extremely picky/sensory. We use the Planet Box Rover as foods touching other foods was an issue and I was getting sick of washing little containers every day.I’ve currently got a stash of homemade banana piklets and cookies in the freezer which I can quickly add to her lunch. Im looking forward to the day when mixed foods is no longer an issue and she will eat mini quiche and vege meatballs!
Stage Three is quite a major one and is a combination of teaching Indi about family responsibilities, self management, time management and money management.
Thanks to the wonderful Amber from Mollydag Made, we have created some colour coded chore chips for Indi. The magenta chore chip disks represent tasks and chores that she needs to do to either be ready for her day or because she is part of our family and has responsibilities to help our family function well. Green disks represent chores that she can earn money for. The yellow chart is for her morning tasks and chores. The blue chart are afternoon tasks and chores. The orange chart are weekend chores. The yellow chart is in order of tasks that best suits the flow of our morning. When she has completed a task she places the matching chore chip next to it.
This year is about walking her through the chores and tasks so that she learns good habits as well as teaching her expectations around how to carry out the more difficult tasks. The aim is that next year she will be more independent and need less of mine or her Dad’s guidance with them. So far, so good. She likes the new amount of responsibility. I like that I can refer her to her chart rather than just nagging to do a task. She loves the visual aid of seeing what she has achieved.
Stage Three, part B: The Money Side
Not all green chore chips are compulsory, but she is learning that if she wants to earn some money, she needs to do something helpful. Money doesn’t grow on trees! We are trying to make sure she doesn’t have an ‘entitled’ attitude (we’ve all seen the generation who expect to be paid because they turned up to work, rather than being paid because they are working hard or well). At the moment, we complete most of the paid chores together. I’m teaching her ‘how’ to complete them. But what I didn’t expect, is that we are actually both enjoying this time! She doesn’t comprehend the value of the money she is earning as of yet, so there is no set amount around them. It could be anywhere from 20cents to $1. Obviously, as she grows, this will change. When she earns her money she puts it into her piggy bank. Her piggy bank has 4 compartments to it, and this is how we intend to teach her about money management. The compartments are: spend, save, donate, invest. As she doesn’t have comprehension of the value, she currently shares out her coins to each compartment. Over time this will change; for example, investing might be 30% of money earnt. But for now, when we are at the supermarket and she wants the Ninja Turtle Mashie, she can only have it if there is enough money in her ‘spend’ compartment!
So there you have it. 3 small yet significant things we are doing in our home to help with family organisation and creation of positive life long habits for a 4 year old.